Play, play and play again! The game, for a child, is a need as vital as the sun or the food! But in the huge toy box that our consumer society has, how can you find your bearings? Advice.
“This is not the toy that a child needs to grow, but play,” warns Sophie Marinopoulos, psychologist, who has devoted research to play in children. Hear there, playing.
Not false ! What a wonder to see what becomes a simple cardboard packing in their eyes: house, car, plane, hat! What concentration in these children who, having just returned from school, carefully prepare all the material to play in their turn to the teacher!
But when parents walk through the gates of a play sign, they are often puzzled and confused by the toy-filled shelves.
Criterion # 1: Beware of marketing offensives
Often, the indications of age printed by the manufacturers on the boxes are lowered for commercial reasons: one thus widens the panel of potential customers!
For Anne-Sophie Casal, psychologist and trainer at the National Training Center for the Crafts of the Game and the Toy, in Lyon, there is a “from”, but in the other direction, it is without limit: if a child regains interest in one of his baby toys, why not?
Criterion 2: Let’s observe their aspirations …
Did your child ever hang with the Lego, while these Danish bricks made the joy of your own childhood? Never mind ! No child takes a game in the same way, and there is no need to worry if he leaves it out.
Some will get into action, building meticulous towers and houses, vehicles and vehicles. Others will prefer to tell stories, projecting into the game what preoccupies them: “It looks like you, you
would be the student, and I would be the teacher. ”
And nothing is fixed in the marble. The dinosaurs that populated the first quarter of your elder’s big section may become dusty in the spring!
Criterion 3: limit our purchases (and those around us!)
It takes time to own a toy. When there are too many at once, the children can no longer play, they leave them without entering a building with them.
Anne-Sophie Casal advises to leave only a few toys, and keep the others tidy.
Every three or four months, you can reopen the “reserve”, put away a toy that has become very familiar and choose a “new” toy.
Criterion 4: What if we do not like to play?
“Above all, do not force yourself! reassures Sophie Marinopoulos. On the other hand, it is important to give time to the game. ”
Today, our children have less and less time for it, their schedule is teeming with activities. But these activities, even playful, are framed. But it is essential that they experience, alone, their own resources. And that, the game allows it.
“Construction of the interior life, manipulation of objects, initiation of reflection, logic, strategy, self-esteem …, the game offers a wealth of extremely rich experiences, which the child needs to grow” insists our expert .